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The posting said the book was "like-new". When I received the book, there were highlights and underlines in over 50% of the pagers. Very disappointing.
I friend had her son read this when he was a preteen and I got it to read with my son. After just one chapter I realized how the book would have been a big help in my own life had I read it before all the dating confusion set in.
I have not read this book because I was interested in getting the actual book. After placing my order on Amazon.com, I wanted to cancel the order (this must have been a couple of hours later, order had not been shipped or anything). But I couldn't cancel my order. I searched and searched for some button or link that'll allow me to do this, but apparently it's not possible to cancel an order once it's placed even if no action has been taken on it.
This book should be required reading for every junior high school student. Amazingly insightful. Although many may choose not to approach singleness, dating and love like Joshua Harris did, no one on the face of this earth can deny the principles he lays out is excellent information. The divorce rate would drop drastically. I highly recommend this book to anyone.
Most people refuse to talk about it. Here are the bad things that happened because of it:1. When you're conservative enough to follow this advice, however, divorce is very shameful. If you like courtship, that's great.
They're painful. Joshua Harris may be the poster boy for abstinence, purity, and courtship, but I am the poster girl for the opposite. Following the principles in this book can cause a relationship to go way too far, too fast. 2. And it doesn't work.
If you read Harris' next book, he didn't really follow his own advice to a T. He wrote this while still single, and it didn't even REALLY work for him. I spent so much time focusing on treating my future ex husband as a brother in Christ and saving myself for marriage and putting his needs before my own that I never stopped to ask myself if I actually loved him.4. Everyone I knew who tried to do the same thing wound up marrying before a year after they met, and I am not the only one divorced because of it. So be prepared that if it does happen to you (and yeah, I thought it wouldn't happen to me, either.
3. I bought the message in this book hook, line, and sinker. Courtship sounds nice because who likes a break up. They suck.
But it's part of the growing process, and better the break up of a relationship than a break up of a marriage. Trust me, I know better than anyone. But don't think it will be the vehicle to solve the problems that come with dating.
I wound up marrying a man who turned out to be sexually abusive, something I would have known if I hadn't been so focused on purity. It may save you from something painful here and there, but all it does is add different problems. I read all of those Gary Smalley and Josh McDowell books, too)., you may end up not only losing a spouse, but your entire support system.
If a courtship doesn't work, you still have to break up, so how does that save you any emotional pain. This book can be so very damaging. You can read the details of my story on [.].
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